Undergoing through agony and
pain of having been denied access to our grand daughter and subjected to mental
cruelty by our granddaughter I thought of sharing our feelings. There have
been, are and will be differences between couples then does that give us, the
parents, the right to deprive our children the love and affection of us, the
parents as well as the grandparents, maternal as well as paternal. We the
parents claim that we are the only ones who are concerned about the well being
of the child and that there cannot be any other person in the world who can
ever feel happy when children surpass us in achievements. It is surprising that
during the process of separation a very important issue which comes up is the
custody and visitation rights. Custody part is understandable to some extant
but visitation part is beyond comprehension. Why should the question of
visitation, frequency, duration, venue crop up and why should the courts even
permit that? The question to be debated should be well being, safety, liking,
happiness etc of the child and also what is better for the child. Why should
the courts entertain the request from any one parent for restraining other
parent from photography, videography of child, serving eatables etc. Is the
non-custodial parent an enemy or just by the initiation of process of
separation one become enemy of one’s own child? All the research around the
world come to this conclusion that mixing around of the child with ones
parents, grandparents, and other relations serves better for all round
development of the child. It is high time such sensitive issues pertaining to interrelation
and also which can have adverse affect on the development of the child are
dealt with sensitivity rather than in a mechanical manner.
